Advice white man dating black woman
She got him – and she got all the problems that come with being with such a man. She couldn’t make him say that he loved her fast enough.
She couldn’t ensure that he wanted to stick around for the future.
When I bring up the FACT that black women were also terrified of making the leap to love across color lines, historical context and justifications are given.
But…not for that white individual white man, who should have offered to leave his family, be disowned, fired and black balled from his job, risk his freedom and life, and with no income, no family, an arrest recorded and possible gun shot wounds, would walk off into the sunset with his black female mate and live off nothing but sunshine and air. We dont have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for ANY man, but after GENERATIONS of giving our ALL to bm who gave us nothing back, I think we are bit out of order to now expect non-blk men to show up be EVERYTHING we never demanded black males be.
For more of Kendall’s wisdom, she hosts a black-woman only Facebook page that is exclusive. Contrary to what black women believe, Sexism PREDATES Racism.
Black males are not excluded from the advent of Sexism – to the contrary they were the FIRST Sexists.
And after dominating (and losing respect) for her last guy, she craved the attention of a man who was a little more alpha.
But often there’s this judgement and lack of historical contextualizing black women engage in whenever we have these discussions.
A lot of times, black women expect one man to conquer the world and give up everything and risk everyone’s life with constant stress of being victimized by people who are against him, and if he doesn’t choose that, he’s a cowardly piece of shit.
Every time she wanted to criticize him for how he handled his relationship with his son, or his ex-wife, or his boss, she remembered that men don’t stay with women who treat them as incomplete projects – they bond with women who make them feel good. Here’s a snippet of her note to me: I love Michelle and I love this story.
Most importantly, from our work together, Michelle knew that her future husband wants to be a dad, and thus, she had no regrets about walking away when she did. A confident, successful, attractive woman in her mid-30s finds a masculine, confident man, wins him over with her feminine energy, and makes herself so indispensable to his life that he can’t imagine being without her.