Now, his son Isaac was going to get married and what did Abraham do?He didn’t say “Isaac, which of the young girls around you do you like? He sent his most senior servant to go and get a wife for Isaac, and Eleazar the servant of Abraham travelled this long journey, [Genesis 24] and he (Eleazar) prayed to God, He said “Please send your angel to guide me, send your angel to guide me to get a wife for my master’s son Isaac.” Now, why was that so important?Now in chapter [I want to show you something here] 27, reading from verse 46, listen to what Rebekah said “And Rebekah said to Isaac, I am weary of my life because of the daughters of Heth: if Jacob take a wife of the daughters of Heth, such as these which are of the daughters of the land, what good shall my life do me?” [Genesis ] She was, she felt so terrible and she said “look, we can’t allow Jacob to make the same mistake,” the mistake that was made by Esau, and that’s why the Bible tells us where we were over reading in chapter 28 and from verse 6, that Esau saw that his father instructed Jacob as to where to go to get married and which particular family to go to get married, and that he blessed him with the blessing of Abraham, and he also noted that Jacob obeyed his father and went to where he was sent to get married, and he wished he’d changed. So, now what he did was he, over in verse 9, went to the family of Ishmael, he got closer now and got married to…the Bible says “he took unto the wives which he had [added onto the ones he had] Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael Abraham’s son…” That didn’t change anything anyway, because the blessing had already been given to Jacob, and he went again on his own and got a third one.But, Isaac was careful about Jacob, and he called Jacob to him[self] and said “I don’t want you to marry from here.Don’t marry the daughters of Canaan.” He told him exactly where to go.
But, in the world, it is done as “I am trying to find out, I am trying to know if this is the right person for me;” that’s what it is generally in the world: “I am trying to find out whether she is nice, whether she is good, whether she is okay for me, and if I think so then I go ahead and say well this might be the person I want to marry.” But, in Christ, things are the other way; we don’t try to find out by dating first. ] We don’t date to try and find out if you are right after; we know first that you are right and then we date. So, it means you have to have the kind of understanding, spiritual understanding and maturity to make the right decision, or even better, decisions are made for you.And Esau seeing that the daughters of Canaan pleased not Isaac his father; Then went Esau unto Ishmael, and took unto the wives which he had Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael Abraham’s son, the sister of Nebajoth, to be his wife.” He had to add to what he had already had, because he had married from among the daughters of Canaan, and he married two ladies.Let me read what the bible says about them, in Genesis chapter 26 and from verse 34 “And Esau was forty years old when he took to wife Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Bashemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite: [verse 35, talking about these two ladies]Which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebekah.” [Genesis -35] These wives of Esau were a grief of mind to Esau’s parents, the two of them.So, if you are deciding that “okay, I want to do this,” because you don’t just date, you date for a purpose, you are hoping to get married to that person if everything is right and during that dating period you are wanting to find out whether she is alright [or] is he alright?So, you would only begin dating when you are responsible, but there is more.